Romantic Kiss - by Cristian Newman

UNCONDITIONAL RELATIONSHIPS

Get the Most out of Your Relationship.

Working together as a couple

Communication 

Communicating clearly with one another is the foundation of amazing relationships. It also happens to be the foundation of professional coaching. It's virtually impossible to maintain a fulfilling relationship without clear communication. There's something to be said about the addage from Brené Brown, "Clarity is kindness." When we communicate with our partner often, clearly and with love we build a foundation of understanding, respect and kindness which carries over into all areas of our relationship. That communcation allows us to work together, support one another and feel loved.

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Honesty

Being totally honest with each other is a lynchpin for successful relationships. There will always come a storm that you will have to weather together. However, knowing what the other is thinking, their frame of reference for approaching different circumstances, what their dreams are, and how you can support them are, perhaps, the most important elements to building a strong foundation for a relationship that will stand firm through the different tests that people will throw your way. If you cannot be honest with your partner, you should not expect to depend on them for approaching you from a place of honesty either.  

Being totally honest with each other is a lynchpin for successful relationships. There will always come a storm that you will have to weather together. However, knowing what the other is thinking, their frame of reference for approaching different circumstances, what their dreams are, and how you can support them are, perhaps, the most important elements to building a strong foundation for a relationship that will stand firm through the different tests that people will throw your way. If you cannot be honest with your partner, you should not expect to depend on them for approaching you from a place of honesty either.  

The most beautiful parts of our relationships are born from making an intentional effort to cultivate trust, honesty, and love.

Unconditional Positive Regard

The foundation of mutual respect.

All great relationships are built on mutual respect. There are very solid examples in each of our lives of people that demonstrate deep felt respect for one another. Many people feel and experience high levels of respect from their partner during the beginning of their relationships. Sometimes relationships begin to fail when respect is not consistently demonstrated between partners.

With Preferred Coaching, the focus for building healthy and happy relationships that truly last is based in the understanding that each partner in a relationship is best served by holding the other's esteem in Unconditional Positive Regard.

What does it mean to demonstrate Unconditional Positive Regard?

Unconditional positive regard is an approach to showing people that they matter to you, that they are worthy of attention and respect regardless of the current circumstances.  When we treat our partner with empathy, accepting and supporting them for who they are regardless of the circumstances, we are exhibiting unconditional positive regard. That is not to say that people's toxic behaviors should be ignored or glossed over. It means that viewing your partner with deep empathy and being willing to work together to become better will help each person move foward in a positive way for the betterment of the relationship.

Fulfilling Relationships

Fulfilling relationships are relationships full of meaning, purpose and satisfaction. Each partner recognizes the needs and wants of their significant other, but works with them to set up healthy limits to their own pursuit of happiness. Being in a relationship which is also fulfilling is one of the greatest joys of life.  For some people, it seems nearly impossible to have a fulfilling relationship. It is so often sought after, and partners are so challenging to find - this seems especially true today. 

The Preferred prespective for a fulfilling relationship is one where you work for and find fulfillment today and then refind and experience that fulfillment again, tomorrow. It is the result of useful and helpful habits which have replaced toxicity and cynicism. This form of fulfillment stands alone and feels stable (something many people exprience on rare ocassions). We could simply state that a fulfilling relationship is one in which you feel fully alive, appreciated, loved and where you help your partner feel fully alive, appreciated and loved.